How to perform Cunnilingus like a pro…
Many have asked and so I shall deliver…
I was introduced to this film with Nina Hartley giving visual instruction on the proper technique of eating pussy by a client. I was very impressed by my clients interest and desire to learn how to please a woman. He was in his mid to late 30′s and had only had sex once in his life, at age 19 and with a prostitute. His entire life he had been too shy and too insecure with his physique, lack of experience, and genital size to put forth the effort to find a girlfriend. So late now in his age, he now mostly wanted to gain sexual experience in order to overcome his fears. In our first session, he brought me this video to show me to what extent he had been trying to learn. I undressed on the bed and leaned back and spread my legs to allow him an overall view to the real live anatomy. I made him very comfortable about asking questions and he did. He took his time and utilized the knowledge he learned from this video and I must say his test drive was beyond satisfactory. Later that evening I suggested my boyfriend and I watch the video together and although he was already quite good at his technique, he admitted he learned a thing or two….and I had to agree. Now with my man, I have no moments of boredom and I have the energy to receive multiple orgasms well before we even have intercourse.
The concept of performing cunnilingus for some is bazaar, foreign, or even stressful. Most learn their tactics from watching porn and sadly this is the worst form of instruction out there. Porn has its place as performance and visual stimulation, however as far as instruction for performing oral sex, this it is not. The best performance techniques are quite simple when you break it down. If you look at the biological make-up of the vagina in comparison to the male genitalia, in many ways they are similar: in function and in stimulation. The next best form of instruction is from your partner. If words are hard to formulate during sex, then using body language and sounds are a good way to express and receive vital instruction.
One main thing that I can advise for men, is to not look at performing cunnilingus as a sexual position to pleasure yourself. Shoving, cramming, spitting, clicking, flicking, and motor-boating has nothing to do with giving her pleasure. I promise you if she is laying there and making any remote sounds of pleasure, it is her way of saying politely, I am finished, can we please move on.
The next bit of advice I can give, is if you have successfully given her an orgasm once, this does not mean your job is through. Once she has reached this heightened state of arousal, she is well on her way for more. When she is satisfied she will let you know. What I am getting at is, way too many times men think the job is done once she has had “an” orgasm, but women are built to last longer, and if you have her there, you should enjoy the tour of bliss as long as you can!
Here is a link to the full video that also includes Ron Jeremy, but really after Nina’s expertise, there was no need for me to look further, after all she is a woman and she knows the best!
Nina Hatley’s: How to Eat Pussy Like a Champ
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